Monday, August 27, 2012

Welcome to the Parent 'Hood!


Hey y'all!

I've taken a little semi-intentional break from writing here as we wrapped up summer with a little family mini-vacation followed immediately by the first day/week of school for Bean (She started second grade! YIKES! How did that happen, y'all?) Everything has gone swimmingly though keeping us all a bit busier than usual.

Amidst the flurry, I've been working with a few other parenting writers/bloggers to cook up an exciting new weekly synchroblog (link-up) for all of us who write regularly about parenting. Starting Monday, September 10, we'll be hosting The Parent 'Hood on several blogs (which I'll tell you all about soon, I promise.) Starting that day and on each Monday afterwards, you'll be able to link up your own posts from the previous week about parenting and kids - be they reflections, stories, tips, discoveries, anything at all that you've blogged on the topic, including photos - and share them with other moms and dads.

So now that things are (hopefully) settling back into a routine for all of us, here's an easy way to get us back into our own regular writing groove that will also introduce us to new friend and give us a place connect and share the wit, wisdom, ups and downs of the best job in the world.

Hope to see many of you linking up in two weeks!

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Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Sometimes Parenting Has Very Little To Do with The Children


Grab a fleece and meet me downstairs, I whispered to Al as I brushed past him outside Bean’s room Saturday evening.

We’d finished up the bedtime routine with both kids a little bit early, and I’d already surreptitiously poured us each a glass of wine, lit a few candles, and collected a warm, snuggly comforter from the basement and lay them, waiting, near the glass door to the back porch.

I drank in the thrilled expression that spread across his face, and as I watched him walk happily off to do as I’d instructed, a tell-tale bounce in his step, I felt the burden of the past weeks slip easily off our shoulders.

Minutes later, we snuck out the back door onto our patio and into the cool night air, Al carried our glasses and his iPod, and I followed behind with candles and blanket. We quietly arranged two chairs side by side, touching, Like a sofa, I smiled at him. We settled cozily in together. He flickered and clicked briefly at the iPod and out spilled a favorite song – an Al and Megan song. We leaned back into our chairs with twin sighs, sipped our drinks, grinned secret, pleased grins at one another. His hand found mine.

The sun bowed out gracefully, and we talked slowly and softly, laughing and nodding, our eyes catching each others’ gently, the two of us at ease together at last. There’d been no altercation, no crashing disagreement, just a slowly-tightening resentment borne of too many hours apart, too many days gone by with children and jobs and life, but without a moment like this to savor together.

Without our togetherness.

We lay our heads back, one against the other, and looked into the sky as dusk faded to night. A gentle breeze brushed a lacy veil of lavender, grey and soft blue clouds from the face of a shyly glowing moon. We watched deeply, listened to the leaves rustle, sunk lower into the cushions of our chairs and gathered the comforter closer around us. The music carried our thoughts away and we dreamed new dreams quietly with one another, a few words, a plan, the future.

Later, inside again, he’d pull me close as I put away the last of the day’s dishes and say, simply, Thank you for tonight. I love you. You’re my best friend.

And I am me again with him, and he is him.

And we just are.

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Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Big Bad Back to School Giveaway Bash

Hey!  Need new clothes and school supplies for your awesome kiddos?

I'm participating in a HUGE back-to-school raffle of awesome prizes for Mom and kids this week.  The total value of the prizes is over $1500.00 and believe me, they are all things I would totally want if I could enter to win them myself.  Which I can't.  But YOU can.  

To read more about the Big Bad Back to School Giveaway Bash and enter to win some seriously enviable prizes, please click this cute picture of Bean waving as she hops on the bus to go, where else?  Back to school!

Go enter now!


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