We camped last weekend for the first time and I wrote a post for 5 Minutes for Parenting about Peabody's nighttime hijinx. Two, two, two posts in one day!
Bean started full-day kindergarten last week! (I know. HOW? DID? SHE? GET? THAT? OLD?) (ACK!) and that's been a HUGE point of focus for me. Not in a sad way, just in a WOW. THIS IS SERIOUS NOW! sort of way. I got a sortof wake-up call about how disorganized and unstructured our days have become over the summer when I enrolled her in a two week session of day camp the two weeks before school started and we were late getting her there by at least 5 minutes EVERY SINGLE DAY, and not the fun kind of late where it's all good and no big deal, the kind of late that HURTS with rushing and frustration and irritation and self-loathing and WHY CAN'T I GET IT TOGETHERNESS. The kind of late and the kind of hurrying that makes me want to give up and crawl in a hole because IT'S MY FAULT because I'm not doing what *I* need to do to set the tone and the pace in the morning for the family to follow.
So OY! after we were late that FIFTH time to day camp and both Bean and I had spent about a week in the foulest, evilest, snippiest moods EVER, I had a little Come to Jesus meeting with MYSELF and I made NEW RULES for me like NO COMPUTER USAGE until everyone is up and cleaned, dressed, fed, tooth-brushed and ready to go take Bean to the bus stop. And NO COFFEE until the kids are sitting down having breakfast because once I've got hot cup of joe in my paw, my behind reports automatically to my desk chair, in front of my computer, and my computer OWNS me from that point on. OWNS me. It's awful. I'm awful! How do I expect my kids to be happy and positive and ready for their day emotionally or physically when their mother gets out of bed and ZONES out in front of a monitor for an hour and they have to ask me four or five times to FEED THEM THEIR BREAKFAST?
Mama = Focus lost
Family = Chaotic heap of frustration and misery
This is what lack of structure does in my house after a few days. Okay a few hours.
So I've set a morning structure and daily routine (the daily routine is really less important - mostly it's been all about making the MORNINGS run smoothly and building the rest of the day on that sturdy foundation) around Bean's bus time and for three days running we've ALL been up, happy, clean, clothed, stuffed full of a nice healthy breakfast smiling clean smiles and sporting matching shoes at that bus stop at LEAST 5 minutes early. And it feels GOOOOOOOOOOOD.
And after Bean hops on the bus, Peabody and I go for a nice long walk, then we come home and he gets to play outside for a bit. And THEN, when I've already had human interaction with LIVE people, I've properly cared for my little gang, I've already been immersed in LIFE and had an hour of walking time to think (I think SO MUCH MORE CLEARLY and with so much more purpose when I'm out walking!) about the day and what needs to be cleaned, fixed, cooked, dropped-off/picked-up and so on, THEN I can get on the computer and stay on task.
And with that said, I'm off this computer again, to keep myself on track. Y'all hold me to it, okay?
Next time? Pictures and thoughts on Bean's first few days at Big Girl School. It has been a bit of a roller-coaster, but she is absolutely LOVING IT!